We cannot control what comes at us – we can manage our response.

The funny thing is that you may often feel that you are getting a rough deal from the world, which, of course may be true.
Rather than fighting back at the world, being in control is expressed in how you respond to the tough stuff.

You do have the power and freedom to choose your responses. The skill, instead of stewing in anger, is rather to acknowledge the feeling and take steps to calm down, even when things are wrong, or bad. When you are angry, much of the brain’s ability to solve problems shuts down, and you might even feel you simply can’t think. That’s when you may tend to make poor decisions. When you have calmed down, the brain is able to function more effectively. Then you will be better able to focus on finding empowering solutions to those difficult issues.